I felt I needed to ask him a rather personal question. Most
of the times, I would reserve such content to my friends. Yet I could not at
this point resist the temptation to ask him his counsel as one who I deem wise
and a father figure.
We had actually been discussing about the rate of divorce
and he explained to me the burden God had put in his heart and ministry to the
family. It was evident that the strategy of the enemy destroying the church had
shifted to the family unit which undoubtedly is the pillar of the church. I
could not help when he further explained that divorce was something God hates
and does not approve. And as such, warned me to be careful even as many
contemporary churches took a lukewarm position concerning this subject.
Therefore I asked him, “As a young man, what kind of prayers
I ought to have towards my wife to be?” I surely did not expect what he told me
next.
He started off with the story of Mary.
“Blessed is she who has believed that the Lord would
fulfill his promises to her!” Luke 1:45
He asked me, “What did Mary do to deserve
to be the mother of our LORD Jesus Christ? Did she pray for it? ”
The obvious answer I had was no.
He got back to Genesis where marriage began
in the Garden of Eden. It was God’s idea from the origin of creation. God
intended that man should not be alone. God looked for Adam a suitable helper.
As I reflected on this, he pointed out that
the problem with our generation was that we were looking for beauty, appearance,
style, class and sheer feelings whereas God was looking for a suitable
companion! Suitable companion does not necessarily mean beautiful!
